Who is responsible for this?

[Charu Pancholi]

Few Questions: 
Why do u guys need to ask for dowry at the time of Marriage??? Can't u afford to buy the things by yourself? Y do u need the financial help (in the form of Dowry) frm Bride's side? nd then its actually not 'financial help', u ppl get demanding Nd ask for branded Car, cash, gold, furniture, etc. which the girls parents are not able to afford but jst to make you satisfy, they take Loans, which they hv to repay all through their lives. I always wonder, WHY????? Why are Indian Marriages, a burden on girls' parents? And it not only ends here, this is jst the begining of the Story!! 
Then comes all sorts of Festivals, where the girl's Parents buy u nd yur family gifts, clothes, fruits nd sweets. On asking these (girls' parents) ppl, why do they do all these expenditures? They say, because they are girl's parents nd according to so called 'Indian tradition nd culture', they hv to do this. Why cant the boy's parents buy the same for girl's family? Are these 'Indian traditions nd cultures' not applicable on Boys' family?
Who needs to understand all this? would their be any change in these types of indian traditions?...........From my side, Its 'YOU' (the boys), who can bring this change nd remove this evil frm the society!!! You have to come a step forward and say ' NO' to Big fat Indian Weddings nd Dowry System. But who has this courage???....Would you be the one to bring the change in the society? 
However, I question it to my self; would I be able to see this change in my Indian culture nd tradition till I live??? 
Would like to know your opinion in this matter!! Replies , views nd comments frm everybody accepted!!